Comments on: Men: As a married man, should you return a voicemessage from an ex? http://www.faithmate.com/read/2009/09/men-as-a-married-man-should-you-return-a-voicemessage-from-an-ex/ Get real advice from contemporary Christians Tue, 09 Mar 2010 03:30:37 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: rk http://www.faithmate.com/read/2009/09/men-as-a-married-man-should-you-return-a-voicemessage-from-an-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-487 rk Sat, 02 Jan 2010 18:32:51 +0000 http://www.faithmate.com/read/?p=937#comment-487 what would the wife say, if she felt it was ok then explain to ex. that u r hply mrd and have a good life.. what would the wife say, if she felt it was ok then explain to ex. that u r hply mrd and have a good life..

]]> By: Rooshellm http://www.faithmate.com/read/2009/09/men-as-a-married-man-should-you-return-a-voicemessage-from-an-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-459 Rooshellm Thu, 03 Dec 2009 22:26:44 +0000 http://www.faithmate.com/read/?p=937#comment-459 Being a woman of God, I truly believe this situation was handled the absolute best way possible...the "Godly" way!!! As a wife, I would have wanted to know for several different reasons. One, the enemy is darkness and that's exactly where he likes to get you in the dark. Things go on in the dark that sometimes can't transpire in the light. As soon as the truth was told, the enemy's ploy was exposed and now your wife can trust that you are honest and sincerely "RESPECT" the boundaries as well as health of your marriage. With her knowing there is also a door opened for accountability because even if there were no residual feelings for your ex, the enemy will use any opportunity you give him to work against you. So you might have been ok talking to her without old feelings coming to the surface, but she could have obviously had a hidden agenda in which she would try to force on you (because the enemy is using her). On top of that, now your wife “just happens” to come across the phone records and questions you about the matter. Nothing is going on but how does she know for sure when it’s “what it looks like.” And for someone that probably didn’t even matter to you, the enemy has just used to cause dissention in your home because trust was torn from your relationship. An issue easily avoided by the exact way you handled it. Don’t ever give the devil even a little room. Always try to play out the “worst case scenario” for the decision you are leaning toward, and draw your conclusion from there. It will keep you from later saying “If I thought this would happen, I would have never…” Bottom line, I believe this was a test you passed with flying colors!!! God Speed Being a woman of God, I truly believe this situation was handled the absolute best way possible…the “Godly” way!!! As a wife, I would have wanted to know for several different reasons. One, the enemy is darkness and that’s exactly where he likes to get you in the dark. Things go on in the dark that sometimes can’t transpire in the light. As soon as the truth was told, the enemy’s ploy was exposed and now your wife can trust that you are honest and sincerely “RESPECT” the boundaries as well as health of your marriage. With her knowing there is also a door opened for accountability because even if there were no residual feelings for your ex, the enemy will use any opportunity you give him to work against you. So you might have been ok talking to her without old feelings coming to the surface, but she could have obviously had a hidden agenda in which she would try to force on you (because the enemy is using her). On top of that, now your wife “just happens” to come across the phone records and questions you about the matter. Nothing is going on but how does she know for sure when it’s “what it looks like.” And for someone that probably didn’t even matter to you, the enemy has just used to cause dissention in your home because trust was torn from your relationship. An issue easily avoided by the exact way you handled it. Don’t ever give the devil even a little room. Always try to play out the “worst case scenario” for the decision you are leaning toward, and draw your conclusion from there. It will keep you from later saying “If I thought this would happen, I would have never…” Bottom line, I believe this was a test you passed with flying colors!!!
God Speed

]]> By: EDavis http://www.faithmate.com/read/2009/09/men-as-a-married-man-should-you-return-a-voicemessage-from-an-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-458 EDavis Thu, 03 Dec 2009 05:06:21 +0000 http://www.faithmate.com/read/?p=937#comment-458 I agree with not returing the call, why would she be call after all this time. You are a good man who loves his wife. I like that you were open with your wife, I am sure that made her feel good that you came to her and were able to be tranparent with her, really you have may your marriage stronger. I think all women want to trust their husbands but, sometime they give you not reason to trust them. May God Bless Your Marriage! I agree with not returing the call, why would she be call after all this time. You are a good man who loves his wife. I like that you were open with your wife, I am sure that made her feel good that you came to her and were able to be tranparent with her, really you have may your marriage stronger. I think all women want to trust their husbands but, sometime they give you not reason to trust them.

May God Bless Your Marriage!

]]> By: ann brandford http://www.faithmate.com/read/2009/09/men-as-a-married-man-should-you-return-a-voicemessage-from-an-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-437 ann brandford Thu, 12 Nov 2009 14:44:53 +0000 http://www.faithmate.com/read/?p=937#comment-437 You did the correct thing in telling your wife about your ex 'message'- however, you could have returned the call. Let her know you are happily married and now a christian and let her know how God has changed you and if she is not a christian He could do the same for her. It is not like you are planning to meet her privately and you wont be entertaining any romantic conversation. Once you have been delivered from someone an occasional "hi, how are you on the phone" shouldnt be a problem, if your wife is ok with it. Maybe your ex thought she had hurt you and she want to set her 'conscience' free. ann. You did the correct thing in telling your wife about your ex ‘message’- however, you could have returned the call. Let her know you are happily married and now a christian and let her know how God has changed you and if she is not a christian He could do the same for her.
It is not like you are planning to meet her privately and you wont be entertaining any romantic conversation. Once you have been delivered from someone an occasional “hi, how are you on the phone” shouldnt be a problem, if your wife is ok with it. Maybe your ex thought she had hurt you and she want to set her ‘conscience’ free.
ann.

]]> By: Olivia http://www.faithmate.com/read/2009/09/men-as-a-married-man-should-you-return-a-voicemessage-from-an-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-428 Olivia Mon, 19 Oct 2009 22:02:41 +0000 http://www.faithmate.com/read/?p=937#comment-428 I think its ok to return the call of an ex just to say hello and that you and your wife are doing fine. Would your wife feel insecure about that? Are there any residual feelings still left on your part? If the answer to those two questions are no then I think its ok. I think its ok to return the call of an ex just to say hello and that you and your wife are doing fine. Would your wife feel insecure about that? Are there any residual feelings still left on your part? If the answer to those two questions are no then I think its ok.

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